The Tragedy of Forgetting a Child in a Car . . .
These stories hurt so much I can almost not breathe while reading them . . .
The Tragedy of Forgetting a Child in a Car . . .
These stories hurt so much I can almost not breathe while reading them . . .
Reaching a Child with Autism through Disney!
Amazing first person story by a journalist who raised his profoundly autistic son using dialogue from Disney films!
If You Want People to Stop Making Parenting a Competition Sport . . .
I absolutely can give a witness to this. I have looked at life from both sides now (oh, wait . . .)!
Really! If it feels as though people (read: other moms) are competing with you, just stop it. Don’t play the game. It will be amazing how many allies you will develop after that. You probably had them all along . . .
How We Church People Undermine Marriage!
Three very good points here about how we teach children that marriage is not very important after all . . .
How to Set your Son up to be a Porn Addict . . .
Shortened version of an earlier post, showing us by dramatic negative example how to porn-proof our homes and our families, especially our sons.
In an era when most seminaries don’t ask their students whether they have viewed porn, but rather how often they have viewed it, we must remember that this can easily become an addiction.
A Severely Autistic Man Has Private Worship Services at Home
I was prepared to disagree with the decision to have home worship for this man with autism . . . until I saw how big he is and how aggressive he gets.
God bless the team of autism caregivers who have tailored their church services in the home for this brother in Christ.
When our Kids have to Drag us Away from our Technology . . .
This is too good. I sometimes resemble that remark!
We have had a few key conversations lately about such important topics as responsible use of electronics in church. Truly we can put a harness on this beast and ride it or . . . it can ride us.
The Restaurant Manager Approaches the Family at Table 9 . . .
Awesome story of humans having compassion for each other . . .
Strong language but a good point. The parents who feel they need to publicly post a picture with a sign about their child’s transgression (in the news, on Facebook) must be so insecure in their parenting that they need to have public opinion confirm their discipline. Ya know?
A heartbreaking situation between an acquaintance and her teen son prompted those thoughts several months ago.
Intense conviction flooded my heart and mind while we shuffled awkwardly and flushed red with him as she ranted and railed in a fit of maternal frustration and helplessness. His eyes filled with tears and his voice cracked in an attempt to maintain some kind of composure and dignity while his mother stripped him naked and flogged him with her words.
In the middle of my kitchen.
In front of our whole family.
Click on over the HeidiStone.net for the rest of the story.
If my first six posts on OCD were to be taken out of balance, it would seem as though life with our son who has autism and OCD has been very sad indeed. And nothing would be further from the truth.
Truly, if I had a choice to rid him of the OCD, I would do that. Not so much the autism. That is part of Joey’s quirky charm. But the OCD seems to just separate him from other people, due to its nature of suggesting grudges to his mind and getting him spinning (literally) on them forever. It is like his brain just cannot stop and just cannot let go of certain things.
Nonetheless, the choice I made to homeschool Joey for over ten years of his fifteen years of primary schooling should say a lot. Mostly that was a pleasurable experience. When it was not, it was still worthwhile. I am not made of the kind of stuff that would have soldiered on indefinitely if I thought I were fighting a losing cause . . .
Joey has made incredible progress over the years. Many people with autism who have better abilities at math and English than he does have fallen behind him in overall progress because he keeps on plugging (and we keep on working with him and encouraging him).
Some mysteries remain. Even very big ones. But we have a very big God.
I have only to look at the pictures or the objects we still have from his childhood to remember the joy of raising this special boy.
His baby blanket and his longtime stuffed animals still bring floods of joy when I pick them up.
My joy is the joy of any mother anywhere.
As I noted when the movie “Children of a Lesser God” won an Academy Award for Marlee Matlin, an actress who is deaf, there is not a separate “God of the deaf” or “God of those with autism” or “God of the mentally retarded.” There is one God and there is one race of people He has created. Those with disabilities don’t fall out of the mainstream of humanity.
And all mothers cherish moments of joy from raising their babies. Difficulties are present in all lives. Some have more difficulties than others, but they don’t negate life. They don’t negate joy. They don’t negate love.
Maybe Some Films are Irredeemable Muck After All!
I think someone has finally said this in a balanced way. I agree with him about Les Miz, by the way. I read the book (in English translation, of course) with our son in homeschool when he was about 15.