T.M.I.

10 Jun

There is a term making the rounds after several years of everyone, including everyone’s grandparents, being on Facebook.

It is called oversharing, or T.M.I. (too much information).

Certainly we can all get overzealous and share with 2000 of our best Facebook friends something we should have just shared with one or two of them.

But, one man’s oversharing is another man’s normal disclosure level. We are all different.

For those of us who blog, a window into our crazy, imperfect world is often just what we intend.

It might make someone smile, or help her know she is not all alone in the chaos that life can afford.

Sometimes, just knowing other Christians struggle glorifies, not the struggle, but the Lord.

If someone’s Facebook or blog post doesn’t do that for you, don’t be so quick to assume it is not doing it for anyone!

I think of two things that jump out at me.

First of all, are the people whom the secular world calls Internet trolls. The ones who never say a thing to you online, then suddenly pop up with a criticism of one of your posts.

Fair enough, but I still believe you earn the right to criticize someone by first finding something to praise about him. Make it a ten-to-one ratio. Praise ten things in that person’s life for every one thing you criticize.

Secondly, are there certain categories of sharing that earn instant censure?

For example, I have often gone on at length about clothes or perfume or makeup or kitchenware. I have probably gone on enough to be boring in those areas from time to time. It takes a real fellow enthusiast to hang with me on these topics.

No one has ever criticized that about me.

Yet l have been given the T.M.I. signal when sharing briefly about normal loving touch between my husband and me.

I am not talking about blow-by-blow descriptions of one’s sex life. That is truly private.

But talking about the normal non-sexual touch that occurs by day, or in bed at night, can make some folks squeamish.

Again, fair enough. We are all different. But then, why not just realize you have more than an ordinary squeamishness when ordinary events are happening, and just make a mental note to yourself, rather than calling out the person who is sharing?

I am going to suggest that calling that person out shows that we are intellectual heirs of the Greeks, with their belief in a huge divide between the body and the soul (because the body was supposed to be dirty!), rather than the offspring of the Jews, who had a more earthy orientation to everything and were the first to teach that the body would rise again someday!

It’s worth a thought. Jesus never taught that the body and its functions were dirty. Some are private, yes, but non-sexual touch between a husband and wife in public can be refreshing in an era when so many cannot stand their mates!

Sometimes we truly do need to watch our oversharing; other times oversharing is just the newest buzzword to supposedly make someone look hip with usage!

Maybe we can hold our censure for when people actually do something sinful . . .

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