Controversial Tuesday: Can You Be a Gay Christian?

3 Apr

Yesterday someone called me to task for using the phrase “gay Christian.”  Rightly so, I believe. I used the phrase as shorthand, because a blogger, a sexually abstaining believer attracted to the same sex, used it about herself.  But if you can hang in with me for a lengthy explanation, there is more to the story than just throwing that phrase out there . . .

I posted a link to a blog post by this courageous young believer.  Her post stated that when Christians go along with the world’s trend of saying that gay sex is not sin, we take hope away from believers who struggle with same sex attraction and know that the Bible says it is sin.  We, who have been delivered from various sins like fornication with the opposite sex, alcoholism, drug abuse, lying, stealing, and gossip sometimes treat homosexuality as though it were the only sin for which God could not provide deliverance.  

I understand that homosexual sex is a sin in which one’s identity can become entangled.  Instead of thinking of oneself as a person who has homosexual sex (an action), the person can think of herself as a lesbian (a state of being).

Yet we would never think of calling a new believer a gossiping Christian or a lying Christian or an alcoholic Christian.  So the point is well taken that we should probably not call someone a gay Christian.  It is more accurate to say she is a believer who struggles with same sex attraction, and to only say that when there is a need to address the issue in context.  Otherwise, she is simply a believer, another believer.

As we all are just forgiven sinners of various stripes and types! 

God has created sex and has provided a pattern in His Word for how to have sex in purity.  When we do that, it models the love Christ has for His church.  

We heterosexuals, and those who identify as homosexuals, have broken God’s pattern for purity in our sexuality in many ways.  But just because we break His pattern, we don’t cause it to cease to exist.  

Any temptations short of that pattern (faithful married love between a man and a woman) need to result in abstinence.  There are plenty of situations where heterosexuals need to abstain from sex, too, some of them possibly lasting a lifetime.

The reasons for someone developing an identity of homosexual or lesbian are undoubtedly complex.  It is probably true that many people who have had gay sex are not going to become people who engage comfortably in heterosexual sex.  Not in this lifetime.  But this lifetime is very short compared to eternity.  And if sexually abstaining for this lifetime keeps one faithful to the Lord who loves her, it is a very small price to pay in light of all He has done.  

Many heterosexuals might do well to pay heed to this idea!  Not everyone is meant to be married and we often marry for totally selfish and wrong motives . . .

Just a thought . . . 

I Corinthians 6:9-11, “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.  And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.”


One Response to “Controversial Tuesday: Can You Be a Gay Christian?”

  1. Matt McClure April 3, 2013 at 4:06 PM #

    Concur. Sometimes we forget that God does not classify sins. That is, a lie told a thousand times is not more or less sinful than a lie told once. Neither is murder relative to being disrespectful to one’s parents. Our job as believers is to “be holy, and sin not”. We fail at this every day, but that us still the standard to which we are measured. Thank God for his marvelous grace! More at Romans 7-9.

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