Pushing Back, Part III (a new series for Thanksgiving week)

18 Nov

Ephesians 4:15, “But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, [even] Christ:”

Case Study, a Person Leading a Double Life:  In my continuing effort to use this series to help us discern when it is actually the most loving thing to speak the truth into a situation that has been clouded by lies, I have a question for Iconobaptist readers.  This situation has me completely flummoxed.

I have a friend who is younger than I am and has been a mentoree of mine, to put it in most exact terms.  She needed counsel on being a young wife and mother and was willing to listen to that advice within a Christian context, so we met several times a year (we lived in two different cities) for over five years now.

I recently found out, by her own admission, that she has been leading a double life almost that entire time.  She was not only lying to her husband, but also to any people, like me, who were trying to help her during that time.

She is now sending word, via various familymembers, that she is interested in continuing our friendship.  Only, I don’t think it has ever been a friendship.  It was founded on lies; lies continued to be the foundation of our relationship.

What do you folks do when you find that someone with whom you have had a friendship is not the person you thought, but rather has a double life?  I am being asked to be a mentor again, but it seems that my time has been utterly wasted in that endeavor up until now.  It is hard to imagine that that is going to change.  What would you folks do?


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